Residential
Domestic Abuse Can Happen To Anyone
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Happens to men of all genders
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Happens in same-sex relationships
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Happens in the Transgender community
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Happens in the Bisexual community
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Happens to kids, teens, adults, and elders by those of all ages
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Happens to all races and ethnicities
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Happens in every income level
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Happens in every religious practice
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Happens to children by adults of all genders and by other children
Domestic Abuse Is Not Just Physical.
Domestic abuse is holding power over someone in order to control them. That power can be any, all, or any combination of:
physical, verbal, sexual, financial, emotional, social.
1 in 3 women and 1 in 4 men have experienced physical violence by an intimate partner.
*And yes: shoving, pushing, and other “oh, that’s not a big deal” behavior is absolutely a big deal:
Because all of it is physical violence
Members of the LGBTQ community experience domestic abuse within their relationships at the same rate as the those outside the community.
That works out to 10 million abused people in the USA in just one year.
*Statistics from 2010 CDC Report
- Them being overly controlling and possessive
- Them blaming you for their aggression
- Them isolating you from your friends and family
- Them losing their temper easily
- Them being extremely jealous
- Them downplaying their violence
Resources
Emergency Shelter
DEFY’s Emergency Shelter provides safe, confidential housing for individuals seeking safety from domestic violence or sexual assault. Our shelter offers a supportive environment focused on safety, healing, and access to compassionate case management. All genders and sexual orientations are welcome.
Next Steps Transitional Living Program
The Next Steps Transitional Living Program is a 24-month housing initiative grounded in dignity, empowerment, and person-centered support. We provide safe, stable housing alongside holistic wraparound services, rental and housing education, and meaningful connections to community resources. Every aspect of the program is designed to honor each individual’s strengths, foster resilience, and support families as they move toward lasting safety, stability, and independence.
Rapid Rehousing
Rapid Rehousing provides mission-driven support that helps eligible individuals and families quickly access safe, stable rental housing. The program guides clients through securing housing, navigating the move-in process, and building long-term stability through ongoing, person-centered case management. By partnering with local landlords, Rapid Rehousing creates meaningful pathways to safety, dignity, and independence.
“AFTER THEY HURT MY SON, I COULDN’T PUSH OFF THE DECISION ANYMORE. I HAD TO DECIDE:
DECIDE TO CRUMBLE IN DEFEAT OR GET UP AND DEFY.”
“IT BEGAN WHEN I WAS AROUND 6 OR 7, AND IT DIDN’T STOP UNTIL I MADE IT STOP YEARS LATER.
I MADE IT STOP BY MAKING A CHOICE.
I CHOOSE TO LEAVE.
I CHOOSE TO DEFY.”
TO BE HONEST, IT TOOK ME A LONG TIME TO SEE HOW ALL THESE SMALL ACTS FORMED A HUGE PATTERN.
IT TOOK SO LONG BECAUSE THE BIGGEST THING I HAD TO OVERCOME WASN’T LEAVING THEM – IT WAS OVERCOMING THE VOICE IN MY HEAD THAT SAID ‘YOU DESERVE THIS AND YOU SURE DON’T DESERVE ANYTHING BETTER.’
ONE OF THE SCARIEST, HARDEST THINGS I’VE EVER DONE IS STEPPING UP AND CHALLENING THAT VOICE.
BUT I DID IT. I STOOD UP, AND I DEFIED.”
Champion:
the inherent dignity of all people
Restore:
safety and dignity to all those affected by domestic abuse and violence
Interrupt & dismantle:
the personal, communal, and cultural catalysts of domestic abuse and violence.